Having an adults-only wedding is an excellent idea for some. The ability to have a wedding with no children so your guests can relax without having to worry about them can be very tempting. The question you then ask yourself is “how do I tell everyone it is an adult-only wedding without sounding rude or upsetting people“.
No matter with your best efforts, some are just opposed to the idea. In their mind, their children should be invited, especially if they are close friends or family. Maybe you used to babysit Little Jimmy, or they are your nephews and nieces. Whatever the reason, it is understandable why some people would like children at their wedding.
Adults Only Wedding – Asking Guests The Right Way
How To Ask
With all that said, there are ways to ask for an adults-only wedding. One person had written in all caps “NO CHILDREN” and said that “it’s my wedding and its about me”. While this person is correct, the person ruffled quite a few feathers as many of their guests found it quite rude. In our professional opinion, there are much better ways of asking for “no children”.
While we may disagree with this person for being blunt at least, they advised the guests that it was an adult-only wedding. On more than one occasion people do not like stating its an adult only wedding and try to advise it discreetly. The mistake most people make is that they just say something like “keep the kids home so you can have a fun night”. What this is suggesting is to keep the kids home but makes it sound optional.
Another way people cause confusion is when they ask their close friends and family to pass it onto other guests that it’s an adults-only wedding. It can cause quite a few problems because not everyone was notified. Secondly, some people are a little offended they were not told directly and instead found out through second-hand information. We often give clients a couple of ways they can go about this. Firstly they can put a positive spin on it in the invitation. Some good examples are:
- We have chosen for everyone to have a fun and relaxing night. Therefore we have decided to have an adult-only wedding. Let your hair down, relax and have a great night.
- Children are more than welcome at the ceremony but the evening is for the adults.
Blaming The Venue For The Adult Only Wedding
Sometimes the venue is the reason for no children. This way, it is easier to tell guests they can not bring children as its not your decision.
- Due to restrictions at our venue, children are unable to attend.
- Due to venue policy, management have advised that no children can attend.
Lastly, as mentioned earlier, there will be backlash to this. You will need to stand your ground, and your guests need to respect your decision. If need be, call or see them in person to sort through things. While you can not please everyone, the vast majority of people are very understanding.
Adults Only Wedding, How To Ask – In Conclusion
No matter how you decide to tackle this just be open, honest, upfront and clear in your message. In the end, it is going to be worth it as you enjoy your adults-only wedding.
If you are interested in more information about adult-only weddings, check out this article here. Alternatively, you can contact one of our event wedding planners to see how we can help (or give us a call).
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