Congratulations your son is getting married and you are speaking at his wedding and going to present a Father of the Groom Speech. Obviously you are proud and want to convey a heart felt speech to not just him but also everyone attending.
We decided to write a how to guide for a Father Of The Groom Speech. This is because there are many examples with no guide on structure. If there is a guide then its just bullet points. So we decided to dedicate this page on a solid guide that will help you give the best speech on your sons wedding day.
A good idea is to check out our Wedding Speech Handy Hints page as a general rule of thumb on speeches (specifically wedding speeches in general). The only tip from that page I will list here is to keep in mind that your speech should be between 4-6 minutes). At the end of the guide I will give out tips specific to anyone doing a Father Of The Groom Speech
Introduce Yourself & Thank People For Attending
Obviously half the people should know who you are because you are the grooms father. Unfortunately not everyone on the brides side may know you. A simple introduction of who you are is customary so everyone is on the same page. Then a simple thanks to everyone for attending always goes nicely.
Talk About The Groom (your son)
This is the moment that you can tell the world how proud you are of your son. Talk about how he was as a son growing up, any achievements, personal traits or notable stories. While it is ok to have some funny stories and be humorous, please remember that he is your son. While you can consider him your friend at the end of the day you are his father and a respectful speech is more appropriate. Leave the mild roasting to the best man speech.
Talk About The Bride (your now daughter-in-law)
Talk about your thoughts of your new daughter-in-law. You can talk your thoughts of how you first met her and any positive qualities that she has.
Talk About The Two As A Couple
This part is a little different compared to just talking about the bride and groom. This is where you talk about them as a couple and how being together brings out the best in them (give examples). Also as you have known your son longer (because he is your son), feel free to talk about how his bride brings out the best in him.
Thanking People Who Helped With The Wedding
Here is where you thank people for helping out to put your sons wedding together. If a family member or friend donated their time or services mention who they are and what they did. For example if a family friend is a tailor and helped tailor the bridal party’s suits or if the brides friends helped with making those ever fun invitations that take all weekend >_< Try to mention everyone because its always nice to be recognised for the work they do.
Short Story, Poem Or Quote (optional)
To help end the speech nicely a common (yet optional) thing to do is end your speech with a quote, short story or poem. This is to give the couple something to think about and inspire them as they start their life long journey together.
Make A Toast
To end things off nicely raise a toast to the bride and groom to finish off the Father of the Groom Speech.
Pro Tips Specifically For The Father Of The Groom Speech
Below are a collection of tips specifically for the father of the groom speech.
- Some fathers are jokesters and while its perfectly fine to have humour in your speech do not go overboard. The father of the groom speech is about your son and sometimes a father can go from funny to roasting him. This can ruin your son’s days as the last thing you want is for your son to say “Why on earth did you say that dad?”.
- You are allowed to show emotion. I am not saying to be all blubbery but sometimes a father can be a little reserved in their approach so its fine if you wish to be a little sentimental and show some emotion.
- There are some cases where the father of the groom is unable to speak. This can be for many reasons which can include medical, estranged, passed on or just a complete fear of public speaking. It is perfectly acceptable to have the mother of the groom speak on behalf of him.
This page is dedicated to my father Peter Cassimatis who passed away recently at the time of this post. He was a loving father and husband and will be missed but not forgotten.
Feel free to check out our other wedding speech guides down below. Here we give you guides for the perfect speech on your wedding day (or anyone else speaking).
- Wedding Speech Handy Hints – A basic guide for all wedding speeches
- Groom’s Speech
- Best Man Speech
- Father Of The Bride Speech
- Father Of The Groom Speech
- Bride Speech
- Maid Of Honour Speech
- Bridesmaid Speech
- Groomsmen Speech
- Cringy And Worst Wedding Speech Guide – A basic guide of what NOT to do
Have you been to a wedding and heard a great father of the groom speech? Or did you hear one that could have been better? Let us know and join the discussion below 🙂