Almost everyone can speak at a wedding on the bridal table. This ranges from the groom, best man, bride, parents and so on… heck even the bridesmaids can speak too. This then leaves one question… Do the groomsmen speak? Sure the best man speaks but what about the rest of this manly entourage for a groomsmen speech.
We recently had a client who spoke to us that one of the groomsmen felt a little left out and wanted to give back to the wedding but doing a little speech or act. While there is nothing wrong with this, the groomsmen are never considered. In fact you are more likely to hear every single traditional and optional speech than ever hearing a groomsmen speech. As a result Pink Caviar decided to sit down and give a helpful guide for a groomsmen’s speech as well as other options.
Like all other speeches listed on this site please review down below for handy hints and tips for speaking at a wedding. If you are to take away one thing is to make it between 4-6 minutes in total. This rule applies to a solo speaker so if it is a group then a couple of minutes at best. You are given a little bit of liberty for extra time to speak collectively. Below are a couple of ideas and options:
Think of the groomsman speech as a lighter version of the best man speech. The advantage here is you can tell more humorous jokes about the groom without the added responsibility of having to give respect and thanks to anyone at the wedding meaning you can throw a friendly jokes about the groom (tastefully) and all can have a great time. As a groomsman you should focus on how you know the groom and any personal stories not already mentioned.
Just like the bridesmaid’s who choose to work together on an a joint speech or act, so can the groomsmen. It can be anything for each of the groomsmen to speak for a brief moment each or join together to do an act singing, playing an instrument (could be culturally specific or something you are all passionate about).
Get the Bridesmaids Involved
It may also be possible (depending on the group) to get the bridesmaids involved and working together to have a joint speech or act. The great thing about involving the bridesmaids is that there are more people to work together and can create something special. For example if you decided to sing together then it would look amazing on someone’s wedding day where the entire bridal party worked together to create something special for the bride and groom.
Just like the best man speech, the same helpful hints apply to the groomsmen speech as well. These are to not drink too much because if you are going to speak or preform. The last thing you want to do is leave a negative impression when your intention is to do something awesome.
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Lastly the key is to practice and be accommodating if others are joining you on this. It does not matter if it’s a speech, musical instrument or singing. You all need to make time to harmonise, get those jokes timed and iron out the kinks.
If all goes to plan the groomsmen speech is something you can give back to the happy couple and something totally unique and unexpected.
Feel free to check out our other wedding speech guides down below. Here we give you guides for the perfect speech on your wedding day (or anyone else speaking).
- Wedding Speech Handy Hints – A basic guide for all wedding speeches
- Groom’s Speech
- Best Man Speech
- Father Of The Bride Speech
- Father Of The Groom Speech
- Bride Speech
- Maid Of Honour Speech
- Bridesmaid Speech
- Groomsmen Speech
- Cringy And Worst Wedding Speech Guide – A basic guide of what NOT to do
Have you been to a wedding and heard a great or horrible groomsmen speech? Did they do anything mentioned above or something different? Join the discussion below 🙂