When I speak to clients about their colour scheme, one of the more common issues we face when discussing colours is that the bride will be on the ball but the groom will not have a clue what turquoise, grape or cayenne are. There are a couple of reason for this (and how to work around them).
Men Are More Visual
Men are visual which means that we need to SEE it in order to understand it, where women are more auditory. As a man I know what the colour blue looks like but I just don’t see it when you say “Imagine the powder blue bow tie on the black tux”, I understand what you mean but I just cannot picture it no matter how hard I try.
The solution for this is very simple and will save many arguments or the “he just said yes because he didn’t understand”. It is much easier for me to go down to a shop and see what they look like, or go online do an image search to get an understanding.
The X Factor
The other issue is that men do not see the wide variety of tones that women do. When I was getting married, my now- wife and I were choosing our wedding theme and colours. She presented me with a few colour options such as plum, salmon and teal. As a typical male I sat there, scratched my head and said “What kind of colours are those?”.
She showed me a colour chart and I said “ahh Purple, pink and blue”. She shook her head and said “no they are plum, salmon and teal”. To both sexes they are very different and can lead to arguments.
The simple fact is that the male brain is wired differently to females and our perceptions of colours are vastly different. While men and women see the same spectrum of colours, men generally clump that spectrum into roughly 7 colours. However women on the other hand will see upwards of 20 different colours.
Without getting too technical here is a simple science lesson, the reason for this is purely in regards to genetics.
The X chromosome allows us to perceive the colour red and women have 2 of them. As a result women are able to see more tones of red and distinguish between them better. Men have an X and Y chromosome and as a result while we can see red, just not as articulate as a woman’s eye. As a result across the spectrum colours are more clumped together in a males brain.
So how do you find out your husband-to-be’s favourite colour? Do not fret there is a simple solution. While men might mentally group colours more-so than women… we are still able to see the same colours. After a slightly colourful argument with my fiancée (pun intended) she asked me what colour I like and I replied ‘Green’.
I went to the fridge and pulled out a beer, pointed to it and said “This green”. With a sign of relied she replied “emerald green”. After that it was plain sailing and from that point onward. If you are having any issues trying to find the right colour with him just ask him to show you. Ask for an example in the house, online or when you are are out and about. Just don’t throw 1,000 colour pallets at him and overload him (that’s a topic for next time).
While these techniques seem very simple… they will save you from having arguments.
When you decide to give Pink Caviar Events a call and we start to discuss options with your husband, rest assured we know how to articulate exactly what you want while also communicating to your future husband in a way he understands. This leads to your ideal wedding and you are both on the same page.