What is the etiquette of smart phones and social media? This topic has been covered numerous times by others but I wanted to go a little deeper. I want to break this down into groups of the do’s and don’ts (when to do and not do things). Let me just say that there is no right or wrong. At the end of it all it’s YOUR wedding day. As a couple you decide what is best for both of you. You need to know how to manage smart phones & social media on your wedding day
I think it is great that we live in an age where you can take a photo or video and share that with everyone. The bride and groom love it, the guests love it, in fact almost everyone loves it… except for the photographer (I will get to that part later).
The general rule of thumb is that it is fine to take as many photo’s and videos as you possibly can without disrupting any of the festivities. The good thing is that these days the priest / celebrant will generally advise to switch off your phone or at least put it on silent. As we know there will always be one person who leaves it on and it rings during the service. We advise couples to make a sign on a stand, remind guests to turn off their phones or a basket where guests can leave their phone so as to not disturb the ceremony. Advise to put it on silent and not vibrate so that your guests are not vibrating during the service.
One thing I can not stress more, please, please, please do not use an iPad/ tablet to take photos! Not only do you block those behind you but it does not look very nice. Whether it is a tablet or Smart phones & social media on your wedding day it needs to be managed.
I had to mention this as I have seen it before and it didn’t end well. If you are going to take a selfie DO NOT STEP OUT ON THE AISLE WHEN THE BRIDE IS WALKING DOWN IT or worse (unless you really know the person)… step onto the aisle and try to snuggle up to the bride while she is being walked down the aisle for a bit of Snapchat action. A bride on her wedding day can be rather unpredictable. Many things are going on including stress, not eaten all morning) and she can take it the wrong way, or worse you could trip her over.
Smart Phones & Social Media On Your Wedding Day
Remember to communicate with your guests prior to your wedding day your feelings on social media and your wedding day. It’s easier to let your guests know via email or Facebook and then have a gentle reminder on the day. These days, its soo easy to share anything on social media but remember to communicate to your guests if you do not want anything uploaded. While most of the time it is fine, there may be instances that the couple do not want anything uploaded. A good example is when certain family members have a falling out and you do not wish for them to know yet. Another reason is that the couple want the day to be about them and just want to share it with their family/friends on the day… the world can know tomorrow.
Be Mindful Of The Photographer
The photographer is paid to be there and is in their best interest to take the best shots. You can normally identify them by the freakishly large camera and lens they are walking around with. While it’s great to take photos alongside them to compliment the different views on the wedding day please do not get in their way.
I have attached an example from my own wedding. During the cake cutting a guest got right in the middle of everyone including our photographer. This caused him to run to the side to get any decent shots. While we were not upset with her, we have no direct clear shots of the cake cutting.
That’s about it, the general rule of thumb is that if it’s your wedding day you can do whatever you like. Be sure to communicate what you want on your wedding day to your guests. If you are a guest just be mindful of the bride and grooms wishes. That and to stay out of the way of the photographer!
I have also written a follow up article called Photos Everywhere – How To collect And Share Wedding Photos. It is about the best ways to get photos from your guests, interesting sharing idea ideas, apps and much more. Talk with one of our team today on how we an help manage smart phones & social media on your wedding day