07 Jun Ask Emilie: Cold Feet(Last Updated On: 01/10/2018)
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Today’s question is from Carla P who asks:
Hi Emilie, I am not sure if any of your clients have ever talked about this with you, but have any of your clients ever gotten cold feet ?? I'm 60 days away from my wedding and I'm getting extremely bad anxiety. I'm overthinking everything and just freaking myself out for no reason all the time. I don't know who else I can speak to. How do you get over it?! Carla
Just to let you know that many brides (and grooms) go through this to some degree. Some will be a little bit nervous but others get it in a large dose and ‘cold feet’ hits them hard. While some brides revel in the whole wedding process sometimes the anticipation and organising the wedding. Questioning if this really is ‘the one’ combined can be like a powder keg of emotion and stress. It can honestly go either way as each person is different.
What Is Cold Feet?
This is when someone is nervous or looses confidence and it can happen to us at any time in life. However, in this case the vast majority of brides from our experience who do get cold feet end up feeling fine on their wedding day. This is because everything is already organised. While they have a whole day of activities to go through the vast majority of the hard work and pressure is gone. This is because the pressure of organising everything, trying to accommodate all the family / friend’s politics, religious beliefs and personal taste are done! There is also this common “all eyes on me” feeling. This is when a bride feels that everyone will be watching and judging her based on how she pulls off the wedding.
There are some instances where deep down you may have genuine reservations. In this case you would be doubting if the person you are about to marry is truly the one. But do not confuse those feelings with stress / anxiety with all the pressures of the wedding. Without meeting you in person it I do not want to give the wrong advice. But I strongly suggest to take a step back and relax. Speak with your partner to realise that everything is going to be fine. Regardless, good luck with everything and remember to take a step back and not let the pressure get to you.
If the stress of your wedding day is getting to you there is not harm in asking for help. Your family, friends and partner will be more than happy to give an extra hand with wedding stuff. Even giving them the smallest or simplest task can help take the weight off your shoulders and help de-stress you. That being said if you do need an extra hand and are unable to help feel free to give us a call and see if we can take away some of the stress.
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